Breaking the Rules

Over the past 6 months of my pregnancy, I have become aware of many “rules” governing the expected behavior of a pregnant woman. The first one was “don’t tell anyone you’re pregnant until after the first 3 months or 12 weeks”. I’m not a rule-breaker by nature, but I am also not one to follow along just because that is how everyone else does it.  I shared my news with close family and friends immediately. Some of them even said, “Cindy, it’s too soon.”

I know the risk of divulging my secret too soon. If something goes wrong, then I have to tell everyone the bad news…that I lost the pregnancy. But the way I feel about it is this: if something that painful happens to me I will need my friends and family. I will need them to know about my loss so I can have their love and support. Furthermore, the joy they have shared with me in finding out about our miracle baby that is on the way has multiplied the blessing so many times over. Every loved one and friend who finds out is so elated for us and begins to include us in their prayers for a happy, healthy baby. This is a really good thing. We are all sharing in the happiness of this blessed event. If things go wrong, my people will be there to console me and pray for my strength and healing.

I kept my whole failed in vitro experience to myself for so long. It was eating me up inside. It wasn’t until I opened up and wrote about it and then shared it that the healing and understanding began. I gained so much love and support by opening up to people. It saved me.

Here I am in my 26th week of a perfectly normal pregnancy with a beautiful, healthy, baby girl on the way. I am so glad I shared the news with my people when I did. Good or bad, I need them. I need their love and understanding. And that is exactly what they have given me. To my friends and family – thank you and much, much love to you all.

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